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I thought gay, lesbian or bisexual people acted in certain ways; if I don’t fit the stereotypes, am I still gay?

Gay, lesbian or bisexual people, like all people, are diverse. They are young, old, Asian, Aboriginal, European, African and from every other nationality, religion and culture. They may have disabilities or impairments. They are mothers and fathers, daughter and sons, friends, and family members. They are construction workers, teachers, doctors, students, secretaries, business people, police officers, politicians, athletes, and every other occupation.

Many of the stereotypes and misunderstandings are about sexuality and gender. We often hear that gay men want to be women and lesbians want to be men. This is confusing sexuality with issues about gender. Check out our Glossary for definitions of these and our Info sections on sexuality, gender and identity for more info about this.

Stereotypes and myths exist because of ignorance and assumptions. Some people fit stereotypes and some don’t. Trust your feelings and be yourself.

Why do I feel attracted to people of my own sex?

Young people often ask “Why am I attracted to people of the same sex?” It’s interesting that people don’t ask “Why am I attracted to people of the opposite sex?” The answer is the same to both of these questions.


Our society is often looking for a cause for something that is different so that it can be ‘fixed’. Being attracted to people of the same sex is not something that needs to be fixed. We live in a world that often fears and questions difference. This is the reason for racism, sexism and other forms of discrimination and prejudice. Being young and different can be hard, but everyone is different in some way. It makes life interesting!

Being attracted to people of the same sex is just one part of who you are.

Is it natural to be gay, lesbian or bisexual?

Yes! Being gay, lesbian or bisexual is as natural as being heterosexual. The Australian Psychology Society asserts this and that it is not possible to force someone to change their sexuality through any psychological or medical means.